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How to Hug a Porcupine

by Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis
🎧 18 min listen Relationships

Transform your relationships with difficult people by learning to disarm their defenses and respond with wisdom, not reaction.

Key Ideas
Chapter 1 The Prickly Reality of Human Connection

We often mistake a porcupine’s quills for aggression, but they are actually protection. By shifting our perspective from "they are attacking me" to "t…

Chapter 2 The Trap of Reactivity and the ABCs 🔒

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Chapter 3 Auditing the Self – Are You the Porcupine? 🔒

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Chapter 4 The Anatomy of Fear – Why They Hurt 🔒

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Chapter 5 The Toolkit – Scripts for Survival 🔒

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Chapter 6 Battlegrounds – Home and Office Scenarios 🔒

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Chapter 7 The Platinum Standard – Unconditional Other Acceptance 🔒

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How to Hug a Porcupine
In How to Hug a Porcupine, Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis provides
a masterclass in emotional intelligence. Using the
metaphor of the prickly porcupine, this audiobook reveals
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